| Today, my luminant little sister-in-law explores why we always want what we don’t have when it comes to our curves, complexions, and coiffures In other words, Ashley dishes on appearances.
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| Are blondes really living the high life? |
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| Or do brunettes have a mysterious advantage. |
A rather large forehead and particularly stubborn hair cowlicks. There were times when these items were all I saw in my reflection. My forehead called for bangs, yet my inherited hairline made fringe impossible. I used to loop endlessly around this supposed conundrum.
Then one day I realized there was absolutely nothing I could do about it; I could continue to feel self-conscious, or I could just accept it as a reality. I did accept, and I expanded my perception to include my uniquely green eyes, round rosy cheeks, and lots of other good qualities and talents that I could be grateful for.
Below is my self-tried and self-proven, 3 step method for accepting yourself as Beauty-full.
1. Stretch your self-worth to include talents. Physical appearance is a fickle mistress. Even if you like what you’ve got now, give it fifteen years. Learning a new talent is empowering and painting, singing, budgeting, and baking won’t wrinkle or sag as you age.
2. Accept a compliment. It makes me so happy when I give someone a sincere compliment and they don’t fight me about it. When someone doesn’t accept a compliment, it’s like they’re discrediting the complimentor’s sense of judgment–which, in my opinion, is rude.
3. May I suggest good lighting, if not throughout your entire house, at least in the bathrooms and where ever you get ready, (where you are at your most visually vulnerable.) Fluorescent, overhead lighting could make Miss America cry.
If we think of how negatively dwelling upon all our flaws effects us, then imagine how positively focusing on our strengths can influence us and the generations that follow. Give it a try. It won’t even hurt.
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im there with ya..almost my whole life ( except when i was a small child) I have not worn shorts..a week or so ago, i decided to start wearing them. I have always had eczema, and was always ashamed..now i am living it up in shorts. I decided it was time, and i feel comfortable with it. I am happy that i have seen the light, and I am okay with it!
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It’s so true. I posted on body image twice last week. Its a tough world for us girls! What i’ve learned is that it’s easier (and just better all around) to change my attitude towards my “faults” then the faults themselves. I have the thickest thighs in the world, and I’m learning to own them 🙂
great post.
Good tips. Although I don’t know if the second picture qualifies as a brunette…
I just found your blog and am your newest follower. I love all your tips and your style of writing is fab!
I’d really love to see this feature written by someone who isn’t conventionally attractive and or doesn’t have the money to shop at anthropologie and wear eighty dollar hair flowers.
Kristin,
I’d love for you to submit a nomination. You can contact me at reachel@cardiganempire.com.
R
I’ve been blogging a lot about this latley. about finding beauty in what we have, and not what we think we should have. Finding happiness in ourselvs!